Channel – End of Life

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Serving families has always been Hillcrest Memorial Gardens focus. We take pride in guiding people through some of their most difficult days. We take pride in maintaining a setting that allows people to find solace. Celebrating life is our mission. That’s never changed. And with pride, it never will.

Guest post from Barbara Karnes, RN, award Winning End of Life Educator, Award Winning Nurse, NHPCO Hospice Innovator Award Winner 2018 & 2015 International Humanitarian Woman of the Year 

That weekend was the birth of Gone From My Sight

Barbara Karnes RN

     One night many years ago when I was a hospice RN, when most people couldn’t pronounce the word “hospice,” or understand what the services were about, I was sitting with a family. Mom was in the bedroom, probably a week or so from death. The family and I were in the living room. I was explaining why mom was doing the things she was doing. Why she was making “strange” sounds, why she was restless and agitated, why she wasn’t responding to them.
     One of the daughters was taking notes. I was surprised. No one had done that before. What a great idea! To have these words of reassurance when I wasn’t there to guide and support them.

     That weekend I sat on my sofa with a yellow legal pad (before computers) and wrote what I wanted families and caregivers to know about the natural dying process. I knew it had to be short (people don’t have the time or energy to read a book when caregiving). I knew it could not contain any medical terminology, as most people don’t know the meanings behind most of the medical terminology used by medical professionals. I also knew the message had to be gentle. The readers would be scared and stressed. I wanted the knowledge to comfort and reassure them.

     That weekend was the birth of Gone From My Sight. It started out a list of signs of approaching death with a timetable. That sheet of paper seemed cold and flimsy. Would the coldness make families less likely to embrace it (i.e., it still lacked the empathy and comforting touch it has since become known for), or did its original formatting as a sheet of paper mean it would likely not hold up physically? SO – Gone From My Sight became a booklet with easy-to-read, large print, and a manageable size that was easy to hold.

I gave the booklet to my patients’ families. I offered it to my employer and it was refused – so it became mine. 40 million copies later Gone From my Sight has a life of its own.

     How do I envision it being used today? Ideally, the hospice nurse or end of life doula sits with the family caregiver and literally reads it out loud with them. By reading it together, you can discuss where dad is in the dying process. It opens the door to questions and builds rapport and trust. It should not just be included in a hospice’s initial packet. When included in the packet, it doesn’t get read early enough. It gets lost in all the busywork papers.

We don’t have role models on what it is like to die. We don’t have access to accurate information on approaching death, so fear walks with families and caregivers. Knowledge reduces fear. Knowledge comes from Gone From My Sight.

     I wrote a companion booklet, The Eleventh Hour,to guide families through what to do while all the signs of approaching death are happening. Especially in the hours to minutes and just after the person dies.

Something more… about “That weekend was the birth of Gone From My Sight

     Over the years I have added other booklets to educate and support specific parts of the dying process. ALWAYS OFFER, NEVER FORCE: Food at End of Life is the latest. I have a discounted bundle of booklets called The End of Life Guideline Seriesthat addresses diagnosis to grief.

Upcoming Events

LEARN is happy to help share information about this upcoming event “The Good Death Seminar Series” hosted by the Victory branch community library and LEARN member Christine Soza from True North Awakening.  

Resources

End of Life

Videos

The goal of palliative care is to improve the quality of life for both patients and their families. Join us to learn about this specialized type of medical care that focuses on providing patients of any age and at any stage of a serious illness with relief from pain, stress, and symptoms.

Dr. Jessica Evert, MD

This video explains the difference between Personal Care / Home Care, Home Health, Palliative Care and Hospice Care. Learn how these programs are funded and how to successfully engage with these programs as a family caregiver to best support yourself or your loved one.

Nichole Claiborn
Kim Ouwehand

Reiki is a complementary/integrative therapy that aids in stress reduction and promotes deep relaxation. Reiki is a holistic, non-invasive therapy that allows the body to deeply relax and helps to calm the nervous system so that we can experience life with a greater sense of ease and feel at peace.

Christine Soza


March 2025

Death Doulas: Changing the Face of Death

This video will introduce you to the role of the Death Doula and how they can help you and your family improve the end-of-life experience.

This session will explore the availability of options for a dignified death, states that have Right to Die options, the importance (and shortcomings) of Advance Directives, and more. Final Exit Network will share what they do and how they address the needs of potential clients. 

Disclaimer: This presentation contains information about difficult issues. LEARN provides access to a broad range of resources and information related to aging and caregiving topics and does not take a position on any of our educational topics. 

Jim Van Buskirk

Final Exit Network
April 21, 2022

The video “An Introduction to Hospice” provides an overview of hospice care, explaining its purpose, benefits, and the support it offers to patients and their families during the end-of-life process. It highlights the compassionate care provided by hospice teams, focusing on comfort, dignity, and quality of life for those with terminal illnesses.

Mike Briggs

Keystone Hospice
July 29, 2021

End-of-Life Doulas of Idaho is an organization that seeks to connect the terminally ill and their families with emotional and practical support. But, we know death isn’t just for the dying… Our Doulas also focus on community education, preplanning, eco conscious practices and grief support. 

Karen Midlo


March 2024

Articles

Pre-planning & Advance Directives

Videos

This video will provide you with a detailed understanding of the Healthcare Advance Directive forms for Idaho. This session will also provide guidance about how to talk with your family and friends about your healthcare preferences and choices.

Dee Childers

Julie Robinson

Seasons Care Management
April 15, 2021

This video provides an overview and introduction of the Idaho POST (Physician Orders for Scope of Treatment). This document falls under the umbrella of Advance Care Planning for Healthcare.

This video will provide you with an overview of the Healthcare Advance Directives used in Idaho. 

Rick Bassett, MSN, RN

Articles

Funerals & Celebrations of Life

Videos

The Funeral Consumers Alliance of Idaho is a non-profit organization empowering people to choose simple, meaningful, and affordable after-death arrangements.

Sherri French-Waddell


March 2025

Write your Own Obituary

A good obituary reveals the joy in living and tells the story of your life. It is also a historical document that should be archived. This session reveals how to write an obituary that honors you, as well as touching those who know you and all who will read it.

Diane Ronayne

April 23, 2021

Articles

Grief and Aftercare

Treasure Valley Wind Phone

LEARN is delighted to share the announcement of the “Wind Phone” to the community in the Treasure Valley.  It was a collaborative effort with our end of life channel sponsor, Alsip & Person’s Funeral Chapel, a local Girl Scout, Katie Beaton and End-of-life Doula, Christine Soza of True North Awakening. 

Feeling the loss of a loved one? Discover how a valley-unique “Wind Phone” in Nampa is helping people find closure and finding the words that may have been left unsaid. The hope is that you may you find solace, peace and comfort here and “May the wind carry your words” to your loved ones. 

Videos

Executors play a pivotal role in estate planning and management, a task that encompasses legal, financial, and emotional challenges. From the immediate aftermath of death, dealing with body disposition and securing property, to the complexities of asset distribution and closing the estate, this talk unpacks the executor’s journey. It highlights the practical steps involved, the potential for family disputes, and the emotional toll on the executor.

Rachel Donnelly

April 2024

Providing support to caregivers through outdoor adventures. Hike 2 Heal provides wilderness respite for caregivers who selflessly provide care through guided hiking, snowshoeing, and backpacking trips. Caregivers understand caregiving is tough and the key to balance in caregiving is taking a much-needed break. Take a break, and go to nature to regain balance.

Dan Canfield

Hke 2 Heal
January 2024

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